Respect

Daily writing prompt
Name the professional athletes you respect the most and why.

There was a time when I felt okay about holding up some pro athletes as worthy of respect, but those days are over. There have been too many times when an athlete or a celebrity I admired on a public or professional level turned out to be an utter scumbag on a personal level. Jen and I were literally talking about this during our long drive up to Vermont yesterday.

The last straw was Bobby Orr. The single greatest hockey player in the history of ice on Earth let it be known that he was a Trump supporter. Everyone who knew Bobby Orr raved about what a kind, decent, respectable man he was and then boom, he’s at best a nazi sympathizer and at worst a full blooded, card carrying nazi himself. To hell with him. I can’t ignore fascism. Any and all respect I had for him as a human when right down the toilet.

There are still a few folks that seem respect worthy, but are they? Are they worth it? David Ortiz and Patrice Bergeron both seem like good people, but is there something in their personal life that will dispel that theory someday? It’s just not worth the effort. I choose to keep their professional lives as isolated from the rest of reality as I can.

Sorry about that.

Relax and Take a Load Off

Daily writing prompt
How do you relax?

Relax. Take a load off. Cool your jets.

But… how? How does one cool one’s jets?

Well, everyone is different. We all have our own ways to relax. I can tell you what I would do, but it might not work for you. Maybe you could give one of these simple things a try and see how you feel?

  • Spend some quiet, quality time with the family
  • Listen to some music
  • Play the guitar
  • Watch a good movie
  • Watch some TV
  • Go for a drive, with or without an actual destination in mind
  • Go to the ocean and just sit and listen to the waves
  • This one is something I hope will be a go-to in the future but it’s not quite there yet: Exercise
  • Pet a kitty
  • Pet two kitties

There are a few ideas of things you can try. I should add read a book, but ever since I had to start wearing bifocals (progressive lenses, actually) sitting down with a book has been less relaxing than it used to be. I should still do it more than I do, but I still have something like 390 episodes of the original Doctor Who series to get through. How can I spend time with a book (such as the new Stephen King novel, Holly which either just came out or is just about to come out) when there is still so much Who to go Through*?


*And you thought the goofy haiku were the only evidence of my mad poetry skills.

Basically…

Daily writing prompt
If you had to give up one word that you use regularly, what would it be?

What percentage of posts written in English are going to talk about giving up the word “fuck”?

25%?
33%?
50%?

Whatever the count ends up being, I am guessing it’s going to be a lot.

While Fuck is definitely the word I should give up, I will not go with that one. No, I do so love that flexible, brilliant, jack-of-all-trades of a word. It is English language at it’s peak. Yes, a filthy little peak mind you, but a peak nonetheless.

No, if it is up to me I would give up a word that I feel makes me sound sort of dumb and a little pretentious at the same time. Basically it’s a word that I just basically over use… basically.

Basically, I would give up the word basically and I would sound a little less like a pompous dumb ass.

Fuck yes, that’s the word I’d remove from my vocabulary. Basically.

The Grudge

Daily writing prompt
Are you holding a grudge? About?

I had to think about this one a bit. Do I have any grudges? A younger version of me was a grudge holding maniac. I could hold a grudge on anyone for anything for any amount of time. I was basically a pro.

Now? Today? I can’t think of anything. Well… I guess I hold a grudge against the New York Yankees and Bucky Dent, but those don’t really count because they are Yankees, right? No, now I think I follow the words of the great Roger Murtaugh when I say I’m too old for this shit.

So yeah, no… I don’t think I am holding any grudges anymore. They take up too much energy. It’s better to just let that crap go and move on with your life. Mental health is important and holding grudges with people who don’t really matter to you over things that are not really important is just bad for you.

Be like that cartoon lady from Frozen and let it go.


Two dumb movie references in one daily writing prompt post. I am out of control, babie!

Far From Home

Daily writing prompt
Share a story about the furthest you’ve ever traveled from home.

The furthest I’ve ever been from home is San Diego, CA. Completely on the other side of the continent. A place where the ocean is west instead of east. It feels weird.

We went on our honeymoon in 2009 and have returned a couple of times since then. We had plans to go back this year but they have been scrapped in favor of other ideas. We will get back there one of these days.

I can say in all honesty that if ever I had a reason or a need or a desire to move away from Greater Boston, San Diego would be my first choice for a new home. I had no idea on that first trip that I would love it as much as I do.

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My Ideal Home

Daily writing prompt
What does your ideal home look like?

There are two answers to this question.

The first answer is the honest, real answer. My ideal home is the home I have today. Why? Because Jen is here with me. In my eyes, and in my heart, my ideal home is where ever she and I are together. Simple. Perfect.

The second answer is the fantasy, you-just-hit-the-lottery kind of answer. Huge kitchen, huge master bedroom, big bedrooms for both kids and a couple of extra guest bedrooms, an in-law apartment, a huge ass recording studio with all the best toys and all the best bells and whistles, office spaces for me and Jen, a big game room/lounge space, a huge yard with a screened in gazebo, a pool/jacuzzi area, a big library/den space, a theater room, and all of that awesome rich people shit that we would likely never use. You know, the fantasy house.

I don’t need the fantasy house because I already have the real ideal house. Jen and I are here together and that’s all I want. That’s the difference between a house and a home to me. We have a home.

Tears of Joy

Daily writing prompt
What brings a tear of joy to your eye?

What brings a tear to my eye indeed? Here is a list of a few candidates…

  • MAGA candidates losing elections, then getting charged with crimes when they try to overturn the legitimate elections they falsely claim were stolen from them. As joyous as those charges are, they really need to turn into actual convictions. Those are going to be worthy of two tears of joy, let me tell you that for nothing.
  • That moment when you’re recording some music and you get through a whole take without screwing up. Major tear of joy moment.
  • That moment when a new Jedi successfully uses The Force for the first time. Three episodes into Ahsoka, I’m looking at you, Sabine. Show us what you (probably don’t) got, kid.
  • That moment when you finally get that mosquito that’s been buzzing past your ears for the last hour. Squish, babie.
  • You’ve closed all three rings on your Apple Watch Activity App, you’ve hit your water goal for the day, and you’ve hit your protein goal for the day. All of your health goals are complete and you can stop thinking about it until tomorrow. Total tear of joy moment.
  • Photographs with blurry backgrounds. Pardon me while I wipe away that tear of joy.
  • Not to double back on Star Wars, but I love you. I know.
  • Not to double back on Star Wars yet again, but that moment where the proton torpedos drop into the exhaust vent. Yeah… that’s the stuff right there.

Yeah, this was a really bad question. Hashtag sarcasm all over this sucker.

Why Do I Blog?

Daily writing prompt
Why do you blog?

Why do I come here and do this? At this point, after all these years it is probably a sort of compulsion more than anything else.

It started with a social media platform that doesn’t exist anymore. It was 2006, I think. Maybe 2005. After years of having a sort of online social life via America Online Chat rooms I was looking for a new source of faux-human interaction online and I hit on Yahoo 360. I created a profile and started clicking on stuff. It had a blog function built into it and I wrote something about Pluto’s demotion to Dwarf Planet that I thought was kinda funny. A few people commented. I was a little hooked.

Practically no one was using Yahoo 360 though, at least practically no one I knew, so I went looking for another outlet. I ended up on Myspace. Myspace had a blog function too so I kept writing. All of those posts are here on this page now. They are anything dated prior to mid-November 2008. Blogging on Myspace was fun. It wasn’t the most important thing that happened on that platform though. I met a woman there. A wonderful, brilliant, beautiful, charming, witty, hilarious woman named Jennifer. In 2009 we got married. Yeah, I met my wife on Myspace. Tip of the hat to old Tom’s social media platform.

In mid-November 2008 I was having a slow day at work. During my lunch break I went poking around for a new blogging platform. I ended up with Google’s Blogger, which I think used to be an independent thing called Blog Spot, wasn’t it? I created a blog and challenged myself to post once a day. I ended up posting multiple times a day. I also had a spin off page that wasn’t public that I used to post anything related to Jen’s kids and my niece and nephews and really anyone I knew who was under age. The main page was public, the kids page was private. In December 2012 I moved from Blogger to WordPress.com. A few years later I moved from WordPress.com to Medium and then a short time later moved back to WordPress.com on a new account, and that’s where we are today. All of the posts from the other platforms and accounts are here on this page now. I merged them all when I created this page.

None of that answers the question of why though. Well, it answered the original why. I was looking for a way to be social without actually having to go out and interact with real people. The ultimate introvert work around. I will admit to having been a bit of a social media content whore for a while there. I was posting to Facebook and Twitter very often, as well as the blog. Eventually Facebook made me feel gross so I stopped posting there and I started posting more here. For a while there I wasn’t really posting to the blog daily. Close, but I had cut down a lot. I think it was summer 2019 when I re-challenged myself to focus on the blog more. It was 2020 or 2021 when I shut myself off from Facebook. When that putz Elon Musk bought twitter I shut myself off from that platform too. The frequency of posts here increased yet again. The only other social media platform I am playing with today are instagram, though I don’t really engage with other people there, I just post pictures, and Bluesky, though I don’t post there very often.

So why am I still posting here? The whole faux-social thing is still part of it. I also just like sharing photos and music. I like having a place where I can share my opinions knowing that basically no one other than a few close relatives are paying any attention. I can be as pissed off as I need to be to get my ya-ya’s out, you know? I can get my pseudo-intellectual frustrations out over politics or social issues or sports or work or health or anything at any time I like.

There’s also a historical thing at play now. This is not really a blog per se, as it isn’t focused on any one topic. It’s more just a personal journal that I just happen to leave open to the public. Dear Diary, today I stubbed my toe. Har Har Har. The historical aspect is this gives me 17 years and counting worth of This Day in History data. I can click on something I post today, go to the URL and remove the post title, and then change the folder path to show me the same date in prior years. I can go back through my past one year at a time and read about what I was doing on this date. Since the start of the pandemic the frequency of posts has sky rocketed from maybe 1-3 posts or so to more like 6-10. There are a lot of past thoughts to review. I find this process both interesting and exceptionally goofy, and I enjoy doing it every now and then.

So to sum up why I come here, I enjoy writing, I enjoy reading old posts, and I enjoy the simulated social interactions. It’s also basically a way for me to send messages to my wife. Basically everything that I post here is written with her in mind. Hi love!

There you have it. This was quite the long post, huh? I wasn’t planning on that. While we’re on a roll, let’s add one more thing. How about we ask Google Bard what it thinks? I asked the AI, “why should one write a blog?”

This is what it came up with:

There are many reasons why someone might want to write a blog. Here are a few of the most common:

  • To share their knowledge and expertise. If you have a passion for a particular topic and want to share your knowledge with others, blogging is a great way to do it. You can write about your own experiences, research findings, or insights on the topic. This can help you to establish yourself as an expert in your field and build an audience of people who are interested in what you have to say.
  • To connect with others. Blogging can be a great way to connect with other people who share your interests. When you write blog posts, you are inviting people to engage with you and share their own thoughts and ideas. This can lead to meaningful conversations and relationships.
  • To promote their business or brand. If you have a business or brand, blogging can be a great way to promote it. You can write blog posts about your products or services, industry news, or other topics that are relevant to your target audience. This can help you to attract new customers and grow your business.
  • To make money. While blogging is not a get-rich-quick scheme, it is possible to make money from it. There are a number of ways to do this, such as advertising, affiliate marketing, and selling your own products or services. If you are able to build a large and engaged audience, you can potentially generate a significant income from your blog.

In addition to these specific reasons, blogging can also be a rewarding experience in general. It can be a great way to express yourself creatively, learn new things, and grow as a person.

Here are some additional benefits of writing a blog:

  • Improve your writing skills. The more you write, the better you will become at it. Blogging can be a great way to practice your writing skills and develop your own unique voice.
  • Boost your SEO. Search engines love fresh content, so blogging regularly can help to improve your website’s ranking in search results. This can lead to more traffic to your site and more opportunities to connect with potential customers or readers.
  • Build an email list. One of the best ways to stay in touch with your audience is to build an email list. You can use your blog to encourage people to subscribe to your email list, where you can send them updates about your latest blog posts, products, or services.
  • Have fun! Blogging can be a lot of fun. It is a great way to share your thoughts and ideas with the world and connect with other people who share your interests.

If you are thinking about starting a blog, I encourage you to go for it! It is a great way to share your knowledge, connect with others, and promote your business or brand.

https://bard.google.com

Interview Someone: Nope

Daily writing prompt
Interview someone — a friend, another blogger, your mother, the mailman — and write a post based on their responses.

Nope. Not playing today. This pointless bloggie is a solo venture. I don’t do interviews. Back in my college radio talk show days (91.5 WUML, Lowell) it was my co-host, DJ Dina, who did the interviews. I just drove the board and threw in the occasional comment.

We’ll try to play along again tomorrow.

Feeling Alright

Daily writing prompt
How are you feeling right now?

I’m feeling alright, mostly. It’s 5:25am, I’m about to take my morning vitamins and do my morning exercise. My stomach is feeling pretty gassy right now. That’s the only negative. I did something last night to earn it, but I’m not sure what.*

My step son is here. He got word late yesterday afternoon that his car was ready for pick up so he drove his rental car home and stayed overnight. We’ll go and pick up his car as soon as the shop opens this morning, a couple of hours from now. It’s not really a social visit, but it’s always great when he’s here even if it’s a short visit. I’ll take it.

It’s Friday and this weekend is Labor Day weekend. A couple of weeks from now we’ll have another long weekend as we travel to Disney World again. I am really looking forward to both mini-breaks. We don’t have any plans for Labor Day weekend, but it doesn’t matter. It’s going to be great no matter what we do.

The moral of the story? I’m feeling alright on this Friday, pre-dawn, morning.


*Okay, just a little comment on stomach issues. Folks have been making suggestions on what I should do to stop the issues. While I appreciate the advice, it is coming based on normal people’s normal digestive systems and that is not me anymore. The troubles I have are side effects of gastric bypass surgery. I no longer have a normal stomach or a normal intestinal tract. Hell, the post surgery literature tells me that I don’t technically have a stomach anymore. What I have is referred to as a pouch. I was told before the surgery that the issues I am having today would be the norm.

It’s not down to diet, it’s down to the physical changes. I have very strict rules for how I eat, as well as what I eat. Sure there are things that I can’t eat anymore. If I have anything with more than a couple of grams of sugar I will get seriously sick. As time goes on I will find other things that I can’t handle anymore. Every time I’ve had Cod I’ve gotten sick. I won’t have Cod anymore. When I write about having problems, such as having a lot of gas this morning, it’s not from what I ate, it’s how I ate it. I either had too much food overall, or I ate it too fast, or I didn’t chew it thoroughly enough. Things like that are what cause my stomach issues today.

So while I am very appreciative of the advice, it’s no longer applicable to me. I’m not a normal human anymore. I am Bypass Man. I am He Who Has a Pouch Instead of a Stomach Man. I am Rewired Digestive System Man. I am something different and I will be for the rest of my life. I have a lot to learn, and a lot of rules to follow, but I’ve also lost over 220 pounds in just over a year and I feel healthier than I’ve ever felt in the previous 50+ years so all of these ridiculous changes are absolutely worth it. That’s why I am feeling alright today.