When I read today’s question I immediately had an answer. A gut response, if you will. The more I thought about it though, the more I realized that gut reaction was wrong. Or it might be wrong.
Am I a good judge of character? No. No way. Or am I? I tried to think of an instance where I clearly misjudged someone. Either I thought a good person was a bad person, or a bad person was a good person, or any kind of error in judgement. Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, I can’t think of one. I can’t think of a single occasion when I completely misjudged someone. There are times when my perception might have been off a little. A good person with a negative trait, or vice versa. Overall though… I think I generally get things mostly right on the first try.
So is that a good thing or a bad thing? Neither, I guess. What this does point out is that I seem to lack self confidence in my judgements of people. I feel like this little exercise has just shown me that I should have a little more faith in myself.
Fat chance of that.
Inside the Red Head's Head 
Most definitely i can read a person so well
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If a person does not feel they can rely upon their own judgement, then what state are they in? A person might be self aware enough to know that the information they receive from another person (in the very broadest sense) is skewed by their own desires and drives, – and the adage that everything is easier and clearer from a distance shows that getting involved, getting close, is the only way to begin to sort the wheat from the chaff.
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Your honest reflection on judging character is relatable. Sometimes, self-doubt creeps in, but your insights show self-awareness. Trusting our instincts can be challenging, but your journey towards more confidence is admirable!
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I tend to view people positively at first. Often, this works out. When it doesn’t, I’m disillusioned. I currently work with someone who betrayed early trust I should not have given. Perhaps I’ll learn from this. I hope so but, then again, I tend to view people positively at first.
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